Social Media Going Forward
There’s a noticeable shift happening in social media, and it’s not for the better. As the online climate becomes more divisive and hostile, the semi-anonymity of the internet continues to embolden cruelty. Many platforms have pretty much surrendered content moderation under the guise of protecting “free speech.” However, free speech, a protection against government censorship, is being used as a shield by private companies as a way to refuse to uphold basic human decency. I highly doubt the founding fathers intended this right to justify trolling, misinformation, and outright deceit.
The loudest voices calling for “free speech” often react most aggressively when their harmful content faces moderation. They’re not being censored—they’re being called out for spreading lies and enabling harm. Free speech has limits, like libel and slander laws. It’s baffling how many people think the right to free speech should be absolute in the private sector too. Even some political leaders echo this idea in the media, though most haven’t attempted to legislate it—yet.
We’ve seen what happens when platforms take a lax approach to content moderation. Look no further than what Twitter has devolved into: a cesspool of hate, vitriol, and misinformation. When this neglect spreads, it has real-world consequences. I’ve personally watched friends fall victim to lies and start dipping their toes into recreational hate, often targeting marginalized communities. It’s a distraction—a political sleight of hand meant to keep the public from focusing on real issues. Don’t take the bait and engage in recreational hate!
This slow boil of negativity is starting to steam over, and I’m choosing to step back before it gets worse.
The days of polite, curious, and human engagement on social media feel long gone. Remember when the novelty of talking to someone across the world sparked genuine interest in learning about each other’s lives? Now, the focus has shifted to division. Engagement metrics—clicks, comments, shares—have become the currency, and hate sells. Hate fuels more hate, and I’ve had enough.
I’m not deleting my Facebook account, but I will be reducing my presence. This may involve setting a specific time to check the platform, removing the app from my home screen, uninstalling it from my phone, or limiting access to my personal computer only.
I’ve even considered launching my own social platform using open-source software like Friendica. However, I’ve been down a similar path before. When I experimented with Mastodon, the hosting costs for even a small community of five users quickly became unsustainable—around $50 to $80 per month!
For now, I’m redirecting my social media time to Threads, Mastodon, and BlueSky. My friends are scattered across these platforms, so I’m maintaining all three, even if it sounds overwhelming. To simplify, I’m using a service called Micro.blog, which lets me post to all three simultaneously and even reply from the same app. It works for me.
This shift isn’t just about leaving toxic spaces—it’s part of a broader personal journey. I want to focus on what I can control: my mindset, my growth, and how I engage with the world. I can’t control the flood of misinformation or the hostility online, but I can control how I react to it—by choosing not to engage in it. This self-reflection is something I plan to explore more here on my blog.
At one point, I even debated creating a website dedicated entirely to good news. Cheesy? Maybe. But I’ve found that micro-dosing positivity can be surprisingly effective in a world that feels like it’s losing its mind. Unfortunately, the reality of running such a site hit hard: it would require constant fact-checking, research, and writing just to maintain a steady flow of reliable positive stories. It would be a full-time job, so I decided against it.
Instead, I’ll use this blog to share what’s keeping me grounded—how this introspective journey is going, the tools I’ve discovered along the way, and anything that brings me a bit of peace.
I know some of my friends feel the same. Several have already left Facebook and Meta platforms entirely, moving to group chats on Signal. With recent national security concerns over traditional SMS vulnerabilities, this was an added bonus.
I’ve also changed how I consume news. The “both sides” reporting style has grown frustrating, especially when it amplifies misinformation. Giving harmful rhetoric a platform feels as reckless as a parent giving a child equal say in an argument about drinking from the cleaning supplies cabinet (please don’t do that). It’s eroded my trust in many mainstream outlets. While I still follow some corporate media, I’ve shifted toward more independent sources where content is multi-sourced, and the hosts aren’t answering to billionaires. I highly recommend doing the same for your own mental health.
Here is my current news source diet:
- The Daily Beans: News with swearing. That’s literally their tagline. Woman- and veteran-owned, the hosts are two comedians who break down the political chaos with humor. They were also early reporters on Project 2025, well before mainstream coverage. They’re also the sister podcast of Mueller She Wrote, which read the Mueller Report during the last 4 years of turmoil. You should listen to their latest reading of the MattGaetz report. Seriously.
- Ground News: You’ve probably seen the ads. It aggregates multiple news sources, labels political leanings, and highlights corporate ownership for better transparency. The free version works well enough for getting a sense of bias.
- John Fugelsang: My favorite foul-mouthed Christian commentator. I don’t always agree with him, but he’s thought-provoking.
- IHIP News (I’ve Had It Podcast spin-off): Two progressive women from the South, unapologetically speaking truth from deep in conservative Oklahoma. They often describe it as being in “trench warfware” for them.
Micro-dose happiness where you can. I encourage everyone to start their own blogs, too. Writing helped me process my thoughts back in the day and still forces me to slow down, organize my ideas, and clarify my perspective. It’s a strangely calming practice in today’s fast-paced world. Plus, it’s great for brushing up on writing skills—something I’m clearly needing as I rewrite this post multiple times!
If you’re considering launching a blog or trying any of the tools I’ve mentioned, feel free to reach out. I’m happy to help!